I adore it when I have the chance to give compliments. I adore the way that someone smiles when they realize you genuinely like something about them. This year I am making it a point to genuinely give compliments to people more when I see something that stands out. If they are a stranger, I will walk up to them and tell them what I want to compliment them on. And I’m not talking about the OMG SO CUTE compliments you get on Instagram, I mean real ones. Ones that show you truly notice them for who they are.
Not, “OMG YOUR DRESS IS SO CUTE IT HAS POCKETS!”
Not, “SO CUTE!”
but, “Your eyes are absolutely stunning!”
and, “You did an awesome job on that project. I can tell you really put your heart into it.”
or, “You really light up a room, thank you for always being YOU.”
My favorite compliments are when I can see someone is passionate about something. Compliments don’t need to be physically based. Complimenting someone’s work ethic is probably going to motivate them to continue that up and push through plateaus that maybe you didn’t even know they were experiencing.
Honestly, in a way, giving compliments is like the free version of paying it forward. And it takes 30 seconds. Whenever I receive one I walk with a little bounce in my step and I am 10x more likely to compliment someone else. Why? I want them to feel just as great as I did that someone took time to notice something about them. We are all busy and when we aren’t busy, we are busy figuring out how to make ourselves sound busier. So someone taking time of of their *busy* day to compliment someone else? I can promise you that is going to stay with them all week.
Everyone has a battle they are fighting that no one sees. Honestly for me half the battle is me fighting against myself. I’m always reminded that when someone takes time of their day to compliment me, that hey, maybe you should give yourself a little break. Or to remember that maybe I should just not be so uptight. Everyone has their own way of spreading kindness, but the important thing is that you find your way. For me, it’s compliments because I know how they impact me and I want someone else to experience that.
I’m not one for “challenges” but I would really kind of implore you to see what a week of trying to give compliments to strangers and your friends does to everyone around you! Oh and don’t forget the power of a random email saying something nice! It takes 30 seconds and it is COMPLETELY worth it!