Let’s take a timeout, shall we? Great! You know how some people are just having those amazing days, weeks, years and everything seems to just be falling into place? You know those people who aren’t having such amazing days, weeks, years and nothing is falling into place? Their success is not your failure. We are trained to immediately ask, “Why not ME?” when someone else is at the top of their game and receiving recognition and we are just plugging along, hoping someone notices your work.
I’m going to need you to remember this. Ready? Someone else’s success does not mean you have failed or reflect on you. Read that again. Someone else’s job promotion, new car, home, clothing, campaign success, anything does not reflect your successes. Sometimes it is just as simple as it is not your time. I’ve had to learn this so many times, so many times that you’d think I would have figured this out a lot sooner.
I wish that I would have realized a lot sooner in life that there is nothing about someone else’s success means that I have failed. I didn’t get a blogger campaign? I probably wasn’t the right fit. Someone else did? They probably were a great fit, even if I didn’t think so. I didn’t receive a promotion? Bigger things are ahead. They did get the promotion? Great! It’s their time and it will be your time soon. In every life instance that we are given there is a chance to see the great and then takeaway.
I can’t tell you how many times I have wanted something, sulked that I didn’t get it, made biting comments about them (in my head and yes, unfortunately in real life) and then realized that I wasn’t ready for that, something better was headed my way (even if it took years) and that I should be celebrating that it is someone else’s time. I wasn’t able to think long-term that maybe, must maybe, this other person has been working just as hard and is ready but I’m not.
You can be happy for someone else’s successes and not have it be your failure. You can acknowledge that you wish it were you that was enjoying that success, but realize that because someone else is being recognized, does not mean that you have failed.
Her success, his success, anyone’s success is not your failure. I wish I could say that I’ve always been the Oprah of celebrating success, (YOU GET SUCCESS! YOU GET SUCCESS! AND YOU GET SUCCESS!) but I haven’t been.
I’ve been working really hard to realize that I CAN be excited for someone and it does NOT deflect or take away from my work. So celebrate other people. Be happy for them. Your success is AWESOME! And you know what? I bet you will be just as happy for me when I’m having success as I am for you right now when you are successful. I can almost guarantee it.
And a great way to celebrate success? Linking up!
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